It’s my birthday!
I’m finally 20 and with inspiration from Eva’s post 20 things I’ve Learnt in 20 Years… I’m going to share with you what I’ve learned in my 20 years.
- I’m stronger than I think – I doubt myself a lot but over my years I’ve overcome a lot of anxiety and achieved so many things that I never thought I would be able to with the help of my family and friends. My most recent achievement was getting my first tattoo which you can read about here.
- Explaining how you feel isn’t always a bad thing – When I was younger, I used to bottle a lot of my feelings up to avoid appearing as though I was seeking attention. But, I’ve learned that this only leads to trouble and self-destruction, so I now speak my mind and let people know how I’m feeling. This honesty and lead to me realising who my real friends are and being a lot happier in myself.
- I’m pretty great at doing plaits – Among my friends, I’m known as the plait queen because I constantly put my hair in plaits. My boyfriend particularly likes it when my hair is in a plait because it stops it from constantly getting in his way. I love doing plaits and have done for years.
- You should never take time with family for granted – When my Grandad sadly passed away, this statement became truer to me than ever. I am so glad that I spent as much time with this amazing man as I could and have had some lovely memories with him. Here is just a few of them.
- Me-time is important – While spending time with family and friends is a priority, self-love must not be forgotten. While working a part-time job, being full-time at university and still trying to maintain a social life, finding time for myself is very difficult. But, it is so important so that you don’t lose myself which is something that has begun to happen this year.
- Holding onto the past can destroy the future – I have been guilty of doing this recently and I’ve realised that no good comes from looking to the past. The past is the past and it should stay that way. You can read a poem I wrote about that here.
- Dogs are the most wonderful animals – I have fallen in love with my two family dogs Minnie and Teddie and they are my best friends. I can easily sit and have a conversation with them and cuddle them and there is nothing weird about that. Dogs really are a man (and woman’s) best friend.
- Things get better with time – Time and time again I find myself sitting and worrying about what is happening right that second, but deep down I know it’s not the end of the world and that in time it will sort itself out.
- You should always find ways of removing the negativity from your life – Sometimes this can be difficult. For example, at the moment, I’m living in a university house where I feel very uncomfortable. I’m very unhappy with this situation but next year I am living alone in a studio apartment and will be much happier there. Removing negativity is so important to maintaining a sense of happiness.
- Carpool karaokes can relieve a lot of stress – Since meeting Liam, carpool karaoke’s have become a regular thing and I love singing with him – it seems to make me feel so much better in every situation.
- You have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince – I know this far too well. Every person I’ve been with has a place in my heart but I hold onto the fact that if it ends, it was never meant to be.
- Happiness isn’t free but it doesn’t cost money – This might not make sense but I mean that you don’t need to physically buy anything to be happy. Happiness costs time and effort. You’ve got to make an effort to do things that make you happy. Does this make sense or am I losing the plot?
- Blogging is amazing – Since starting this blog, I have met some truly amazing and inspirational people. I’ve also found it much easier to speak my mind.
- I can be independent – I found this more clearly when I moved to university and started doing everything for myself. Finally finding the courage to move into my own place and living alone will prove this the most.
- I can be successful in most things if I put all my effort into trying and trying again – Not everything happens right away and I can’t always manage everything the first time. But, over time I have become a fighter and won’t stop until I achieve every goal I have.
- I have a very imaginative mind – Some of my dreams are ridiculous and when I have panic attacks (which haven’t occurred since getting my tattoo) my mind does crazy things. But imagination isn’t all that bad and can lead to some good blog posts.
- Hayfever sucks – Hayfever has ruined many summer holidays for me and always makes me dread summer.
- Cold sores suck – I’ve had cold sores ever since I was a baby and they’re the ugliest, itchiest, annoying things to have on your face.
- Car insurance is expensive – I’m still gutted I passed my driving test first time and still haven’t been able to get a car while paying rent.
- I’m a very loving person – While I’m not always perfect, I know there is love behind everything I do and every decision I make.
In 20 years I’ve learned a lot about myself. I hope to continue learning more and more.