Hi everyone! This is going to be a very different post to the usual so I hope you don’t mind, but I think it’s really important to get this message out there. So…
Earlier this year I downloaded Tinder and started talking to some really lovely people. Some were weird but I tended to just ignore those. I deleted the app when things got serious with my ex. But after things didn’t work out, I re-downloaded it in the hopes to regain old friends and even meet new ones.
Things have been going well.
I’ve met up with old friends and new ones. But, I always make sure I’m very careful before meeting people. Snapchat and Facetime are perfect for this because you can make sure the people you are meeting aren’t lying about who they say they are (to an extent). However, I always do a social media search of the people I’m talking to, just to make sure I feel they are safe enough to meet. I also always make sure I plan to meet people in a public place.
Now let’s get onto my story…
I started talking to a lad on tinder. For the purpose of this story, let’s call him Rick. So, I talked to him for a little while, then he added me on Snapchat to talk on there. Perfect because then I could see his face to check it matches his pictures. It did!
We spoke every day for around a week and he seemed really nice. I made it clear to him that I want nothing more than ‘friends’ with anyone right now as I have only recently came out of a relationship. So, he spoke to me about his friend. For the purpose of this story, let’s call her Rebecca. He said he’s taking her on a date and as she likes him, they might get together. I said that’s great but that if they did get together, I would not longer talk to him because I would obviously expect him to delete Tinder and be solely focused on her.
We were still talking perfectly fine and he was flirting a little. Then we decided to meet. He asked if he could kiss me etc and I said yes but to just see how things go. Then, he sent a Snapchat and sent another one after that wasn’t meant for me. It said something like “I’m going to pick up [girls name].” For the purpose of this story, we’ll call her Poppy. He then apologised and said that the second Snapchat was meant for his mum. I thought that was weird but just continued to talk as normal. In the morning (the day before we were going to meet). I decided to do some searching, as this was still playing on my mind. I found him on Facebook and in his bio ‘Poppy’s’ name was there. I managed to find her on Facebook and his name was in her bio. To me that seems as though they are in a relationship or have some sort of commitment to eachother.
So I turned into Nev from Catfish to look for any other signs that they are in a relationship. Eventually I found their Instagram pages which were the same with eachother’s names in their bios. But, their profile pictures were of them both together. To me, it was very clear he is in a relationship but is on Tinder acting single. In his Tinder bio it even said “single asf.” Wow.
So, I confronted him about Poppy and he got very defensive then blocked me without a reply. So I messaged him on Tinder saying if he is in a closed relationship then being on Tinder and dating other girls is disgusting. As I know, if I was in Poppy’s position I’d be furious. So, I decided to casually try to get in touch with Poppy to tell her what I know, as I felt that was only right. I first messaged her to ask how she knows Rick (because I had no real proof they were together). But, she read and ignored this message. So I left it for a while then messaged her again explaining everything I’ve just discussed.
I’m still waiting for her to read the message.
Honestly, I just feel so bad about this whole situation and I wanted to write this post to warn others to please be careful because a lot of people on these sort of apps/websites aren’t totally honest. What if I had met up with that lad and not known he had a girlfriend?
I also now realise why he wanted to talk on Snapchat because of course, the messages disappear so I have no real proof of anything.
Let me know in the comments if you think how I approached this situation is right and if you have any thoughts or advice.